8 Ways People Accidentally Reveal How Deeply Insecure They Really Are
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8 Ways People Accidentally Reveal How Deeply Insecure They Really Are

According to Psychology Spot, if a person feels inferior to another, they seek out details or issues to criticize them about in order to level the playing field (or gain the advantage). In a work environment, they may find areas in which the object of their disdain struggles and mock them for it. For example, if a colleague of theirs is excelling in their work and is either upstaging them or threatening their promotion, they may call attention to this person’s weight or occasional spelling errors so others focus on their supposed shortcomings.

In other situations, they may imply that the one they’re threatened by isn’t nearly as cool or capable as they appear to be. They might suggest that this person earned their accolades via nepotism, sleeping around, or buying others’ support, or that they have serious ghosts in their past that others would be shocked by if they found out — anything to discredit and lessen them in other people’s eyes.

4. They’re quick to ostracise those who intimidate them.

A big giveaway that reveals someone is rampantly insecure is when they attempt to ostracize someone from your social circle. For whatever reason, they feel jealous and threatened by that individual and thereby seek to remove them from a position in which they can hurt or undermine them in any way. Depending on who they are and what their personality is like, they may imply that the one they want to remove has been inappropriate towards them and is therefore making them uncomfortable, or they might try to dig up dirt on them that would justify their expulsion.

This type of behavior can be very hurtful to the one being ostracized, especially if their actions have only ever been friendly and benign. Furthermore, being cast out like this can have negative repercussions in their wider circles. Most people assume that where there’s smoke, there must be fire, and might distance themselves just in case the rumors about this individual may be true. Many people have had their lives ruined by false accusations from insecure people who are seeking to further their own agendas.

5. They become incendiary after asking for feedback.

Your friend might ask you to give them some feedback about something they’re working on, but they aren’t looking for an honest response. Instead, they’re looking for reassurance that what they’re doing is spectacularly amazing — any mention of plot holes, flaccid tropes, or unrealistic circumstances will cause them to burst into flames of fiery rage in your direction.

Insecure people often merge their egos with their creations and thus take even the most constructive criticism personally. In their minds, they’re inextricable from the babies they create, so telling them that the Werewolf Paladin Timecop they’re writing about might want to use a sword instead of a mace might be enough to tip them into a self-loathing breakdown spiral.

6. Flirting with your partner.

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