Are My Celebrity Crushes Unhealthy?

Have you ever wondered why we are so consumed by our celebrity crushes? Throughout my whole life, I have always been someone who loves to live in their fantasies. I consider myself a serial celebrity crusher. Throughout my life, fangirling has become one of my favorite pastimes. These crushes may develop from recently watched shows and movies or my favorite artists. Once I am captivated before I know it, I’m lost in Youtube interviews, Tiktok edits, and fan fiction. I’m not saying that I’m proud of being in love with the designated white boys of the month. Nor am I completely delusional, I am aware that these celebrities don’t know of my existence and that I don’t know them personally. Yet, that will not stop me from creating fake scenarios in my head. It’s a lifestyle at this point and I’ll admit it’s somewhat fun to be unrealistic. Having celebrity crushes is incredibly normal. However, I wonder if celebrity crushes can do more harm than good. Therefore, I’ve decided to do some research to discuss how thin the line is between having normal celebrity crushes and having an unhealthy obsession.

Celebrity crushes are defined as parasocial relationships. These are one-sided feelings of imagined intimacy or friendship with a media persona who you don’t know personally. Parasocial relationships often require time, devotion, and emotional energy. These crushes are very common and can even be seen as productive.

Healthy celebrity crushes have their benefits. Psychotherapist Jason Ward tells us that they can offer “a way to test, desire, longing, and connection.” Humans are always looking to relate and have a tendency to affiliate. As an only child, I grew up very independent. I often found my comfort and entertainment in fictional characters and celebrities that I saw on television. I can’t help but wonder if my desire to fit in has played a role in my long list of celebrity crushes. During my childhood, I was convinced that Corbin Bleu, Avan Jogia, and Nick Jonas were simultaneously competing for my affection. At a young age, these crushes can help you shape your identity, provide belonging and increase self-esteem as you develop relationships in real life.